Relationship is such a big word that touches on so many things from our personal perspective to the society’s expectations. It may differ from culture to culture, which makes it more interesting because then we can have more things to create a better understanding. I am not an expert in this but I am willing to learn. For now though.. I will just want to share how I view relationships and how these are influenced by my culture, environment, and upbringing. There can be a lot of classifications done under relationships but I will only cover the kind of relationships we have with different people. In a skating rink, there may be people from all kinds of backgrounds but what brings them there in one place is because of one thing: they want to skate. Now, it does not have involve pure passion of skating rather just the intention and interest of learning how to skate or simply just the fun of it.
This is usually the first relationship we encounter when we first enter the world. I love my family more than anything, I love them as much as the one who created me. Yes, there may be a lot of misunderstandings but nevertheless, love can be best understood in a family setting, in my perspective. No one is perfect that those imperfections create the beauty of being able to accept a person. In my family, we may not have the best personalities but I learned a lot from each of them. Things that does not only help me succeed in my life bust also things that makes me want to love life more. They see me at my best and at my worst self but never did they judge me. Instead, they will help me out. I never felt that I lacked anything when I’m with them because in their eyes, I am already perfect as I am and whatever imperfections there are, that’s what makes me unique. Of course that does not include bad attitudes. As for those, they may scold or reprimand me. However, at the end of the day, they will say that their intentions were pure and that is to help me become a better person. I may not have the best family but in my eyes, they are enough to make me happy. Moreover the greatest part of going home is immediately knowing that there are people waiting for me.
I remember when I was 12 years old, I would always cry at night because of the thought of losing them in my life, especially my parents. I don’t know what made me think that way.. it just came to my mind how my life would be without them and that was not something I would want. In reality, there are a lot of things that could happen that we cannot control and those circumstances must not stop us in going back and seeing the true meaning of family. These are mere thoughts that are going through my mind but I know it will be different by the time that it actually happens. Appreciation is the best way to give back that love that was given to us.
My dad taught me the importance of perseverance and that no matter what background or challenges I will face, that should not stop me from learning and doing my best in everything that I do. My mom gave me the best representation of how true love goes above and beyond. My brother has shown me what integrity stands for and how numbness was never the best solution to problems or societal rejection. My sister taught me that kindness is not limited to how a person treats you. Even with my flaws, my sister respects me. I also learned from her that innocence is can be an advantage because there will be less judgments, expectations, and I appreciate them and reality (getting to have our own responsibilities to the world around us) may sometimes stop us from getting more time to spend with one another but that does not mean that we can’t try.
This can be one of the toughest to understand because not only do we meet friends who come from different backgrounds or ethnicity but also instill different values and perceptions. As the quote says, birds of the same feather flock together. That can be true to most cases but that should not limit us in having a diverse group of people to be friends with. Who knows.. the people that we are afraid to talk to may be the person we are most similar with. It is still our choice to choose our friends. The feeling of comfort and trust must be mutual in order to sustain the relationship. There may be times when it is hard to find the right people but remember, never be a people-pleaser! It can be hard to avoid especially if you do not want to disappoint anyone. Just think of it this way, you will eventually get tired and they will eventually find out who you really are so why put in so much effort to get their attention and acceptance. It is hard especially if it involves people that you like and respect; however, the risks of changing who you are and your values are not worth it. No matter how you look at it, there are and there will be people who understands you and will accept you not because you have proven yourself to them but because of the fact that they had the will to learn more about who you really are. I am glad to have close friends who have been good and true to me. Being in another country may seem different at first; however, judgments and prejudice must not be placed in our heads because it only limits our capability/es of presenting to others who we really are.
Living life with a knowledge that there is a being that is higher than me, I learned to stay grounded. My belief is not something I am ashamed of rather it is more of something that I am proud of. Love, however, is not boastful so I do not aim exclaim my utmost love for the Being who created me with pure love. The best way is to explain how I view my faith and its importance in my daily life. I pray daily and the bible is something that I aim to read from start to end. These may be practices but faith should not be limited to what should be done rather it has to be parallel to our beliefs as a human being that soon enough, we will be able to share these to other people. By sharing, it does not mean that we have to insist on other people that they have to try it because that would just be wrong. What I meant was being able to talk about our appreciation of the faith with no hesitations concerning how people will think of us. Now, it should not be too aggressive to the point that people of other beliefs will feel threatened by what you’re saying. Going back to why faith is important in my life. The main reason lies on the fact that it keeps me going like how a gasoline keeps the engines of the car moving. It’s my drive to be a good person knowing that I came from one and gives me hope that humanity still has a chance to change for the better.
Now when we hear relationships, the first thing that comes to people’s mind is a partner or someone they are with.. not for me. I may not have enough knowledge on how these relationships work but I believe in the magic the kind of ‘love’ it will give. Whenever I am confronted with this thought, I just imagine myself in this scenario:
Walking in the park with the cold breeze of spring brushing through our faces, we walk hand-in-hand knowing that nothing can keep us apart. We do not speak because we do not have to. Our hearts beat as one and that is enough. We are still beside each other and that is more than enough. Growing old together and overcoming those challenges that almost separated us, we learned to get a deeper understanding of what love meant and how this has influenced to the way we treat each other as times got tougher. Our wrinkles does not symbolize our fatigue and frustrations rather they are only there to represent our smiles that came back to life after every fall that we take. We take that same path just like before, which symbolizes the importance of the past where the first instance that we felt we belonged was still there and will forever be there. We sit on the bench and look at each other to smile and giggle just because we want to. I lean on his shoulder and he leans on my head. After a while, we stand up.. satisfied.
These are just my own telescope on how I observe and perceive relationships. Then again, I am yet to learn more and see more of the world around me. It may be scary but it will not stop me from understanding it. Relationships are the most important treasures we can have in this temporary life, not those awards or achievements, not the better technologies that makes life easier, not those clothes that make us feel accepted, and even not the likes we get on each picture we get on Facebook. It may be hard to maintain one or to find the right people to be with; however, as long as we stay true to our values and have our principles planted in our hearts and minds. Let’s skate through life knowing that there are people around us who enjoy what we love. (: